Today my daughter turns 16. At key milestones in my two daughters life I have done significant things to mark these days. Ages 13, 16 and 18 I have paused as there dad and provided significant moments for my girls. (example: At 13 I took them both out and we signed a contract called the “heart promise” and I gave them a purity ring)
Chelsey turning 16 is one of those moments. We invited a handful of adults who have impacted her life. I had three key ladies, who have shaped Chelsey life, say words of wisdom over her. Then Jeremy Johnson spoke a pastoral blessing over her. Then as her dad–I read a letter to her (see below) and prayed over her. Wow! What an amazing evening.
Here is the letter I wrote for my daughter.
Chelsey Jones Your 16th Birthday
I have all types of emotions and so many things to say to you as you turn 16. I have narrowed it down to really a brief statement—a statement that summarizes all my emotions—I am proud of you! That’s it. You couldn’t make your dad any more proud. You are an amazing person! You are an amazing daughter.
I am proud of the way you stand for Jesus. I know this has been tough for you at times. You have lost some friends because of your heart for God. You have spent some lonely nights. I am proud of you as your dad.
I am proud of the way you problem solve and think. You are a good thinker. You always have 10 options to solve one problem. You are persistent and determined. “No” isn’t in your vocabulary.
I am proud of the way you just love life. You live to the fullest. You chase your dreams. Your attitude is one of a kind.
I am proud of your attitude and approach with you with your relationship with guys. I have made a commitment to pray for your future husband—you have made a commitment to walk in purity and honesty. You are on the right path. Stand strong my daughter. I know temptation will come to lower your standards. Don’t! God will honor your character and integrity. You know who you are and will not compromise! For this I am proud.
I am proud of you for taking risk. You have never back down to risk. From a little girl you jumped on stage and said, “yes”. (I had to quickly learned not to jump on stage with you and give you a bear—that is another story). You have taken risk with drama, volleyball, dance, worship leading and preaching. You have courage and tenacity. It takes a lot of guts to stand in front of people and preach and let everyone give their opinion. I am proud of you.
I am proud of the way you worship. Every once in a while I peek in church and watch you worship. It brings joy to my heart to see your heart for Jesus.
I am proud of the way you are so sentimental. People mean the world to you. Friends go deep with you. Family is foundational to you. People who don’t know you—don’t get this part about you. I do. You have a tender heart! Don’t ever lose this.
I am proud of you because you are so crazy. Sometimes “random” but crazy. You are the one to say Yes when your dad says, “let’s go to Disneyland again”…it was late…that young couple on splash mountain will never forget the “Troy and Chelsey” team.
When I think about your future—all I can say—I’m proud to be your dad. Full of potential. Full of life. Full of joy. Full of Jesus.
The Bible says, “Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and favor with God and man” Before my very eyes you are growing in wisdom, stature and favor with God and man.
I pray the favor of the Lord on you. I pray the favor of God during your last two years of High School. I pray the favor of the Lord on your college years. I pray the favor of the Lord on your future husband. I pray the favor of the Lord on every decision you make. I pray the favor of the Lord on every gift God as given you.
My daughter—walk in the favor of the Lord. Love Jesus. Love others. Keep being crazy!
I’m proud of you!
Your dad!